Thursday, June 25, 2015

Let's Discuss: "You Did Not Eat That..."

I love finding new people to follow on Instagram (hands down my favorite social media platform). When I am bored I scroll through the search function and hunt for new people to follow. Earlier this week, Lanie sent me a link to a new Instagram account she had started following, @youdidnoteatthat

@youdidnoteatthat's Instagram bio states that they speak "the truth in this mixed up world of too many macaroons and ice cream cones used as props. Because did not eat that". 

When I first started clicking through YDNET's posts and pics, I couldn't help but laugh. As a regular reader of over 30 blogs, I have totally seen the use of food as props. Other items regularly used: gorgeous flowers, cute dogs (I am a repeat offender on that one), and fashion merchandise. Everything is oh so perfectly staged and meticulous. And I too have wondered, "what do they do with all of those sweets?" 

But then I saw some pictures that looked very similar to things that I regularly post. Like the one I posted on Friday...

And you know what, while I did make that look pretty (or at least attempted to), I REALLY DID EAT THAT. And drink that too. Three-quarters of the bottle actually. 

And I REALLY DID EAT a donut on "National Donut Day." I admit, I took a picture of two donuts and only ate one of them. But I did eat one. 

So then, I got kind of mad at the account. Just because I am physically fit doesn't mean that I don't indulge. And on the other side of the spectrum, if someone was overweight and posed with a carrot, would you do the same thing? Accuse them of not eating it because they aren't "skinny"! Skinny shaming and fat shaming are something that our society regularly partakes in...and probably most of the time people don't even realize they are doing it. Comments might come from a good place in the form of a backhanded compliment: 

"Wow. You look so great. You are lucky you can eat that." 
Well you know why I can eat that? Because I just sweated my ass off at crossfit. 

Or it might come about through food guilt for eating something healthy "Oh you are only ordering a salad. No wonder you are so thin." 
No, I ordered the salad because I f*ing love salad!

You might have seen this on social media yesterday, but a plus-sized blogger posted a picture of herself in a swimsuit on the beach. It went viral with people calling her "brave" for posting such a revealing picture of herself and totally owning it. However, she responded to all of these words of praise with an amazing statement...

"THIS WAS NOT BRAVE. I've been told how brave I am for not having a coverup, but going with out a wrap would only take bravery if I cared what others thought of me, but I don't. I spend my time worrying about things I CAN control and this day, I was only thinking about how fab I felt and how much sun I was catching. A family battling tragic illness, a mother trying to beat addiction, a person trying to break free of domestic violence, reaching out for help when you have already planned your suicide and feel like you can't breath one more day, THAT is brave. Not wearing a swimsuit at the beach. LIVE life and only worry about what really matters."

I loved this. Because she is right. We are SO MUCH more than our sizes. Tall, short, skinny, fat: who cares!!! 

Why is that we constantly point out the negative in someone else? I think things would be a lot easier if we all just gave one another a bit more slack. We have bigger things to worry about like (spoiler alert) is John Snow really dead? UGH! 

Which brings me back to @youdidnoteatthat. I know she (or he. the account is anonymous) is just trying to be funny and that the post are all in "good fun", but when does that go to far? I don't know. That is why I am asking awesome readers. 

What do you think? Will you follow this Instagram account (in full disclosure: I do)? How do you feel about fat/skinny-shaming?

Let's discuss...

OH, and yes, I did drink that :)

1 comment:

  1. LOVE this new series!! :) I totally agree with everything you said, and am guilty myself of both "setting the perfect picture scene" and shaming in "good fun." I think it's important we all practice a little more acceptance and tolerance toward those who are different than we are in any way, unless they are causing harm to themselves or others.