Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Wedding Wednesday: Pre-Cana

Sometimes when overwhelmed with all of the decisions regarding food, invitations, flowers and the dress, the true reason a wedding is taking place gets forgotten. Anyone can have a wedding, but both Josh and I want a marriage. A marriage that is full of love, respect, and loyalty. A marriage that lasts forever. 

Josh and I are both Catholic and getting married through the church with a full Catholic Mass. The Catholic Church requires couples to complete several things before the ceremony can take place. One of these items is Pre-Cana, a pre-marriage course. The term Pre-Cana comes from John 1-12 when Jesus attends the wedding in Cana and performs the miracle of  transforming water to wine (a pretty fabulous miracle if I do say so myself). Depending on the specific church, the classes can range from a weekend to several months and are conducted by a priest, deacon or couples from the parish.

Our church does a bit of both. For four weeks, we have roughly a three and half hour class on Saturdays with other engaged couples. Both of our priests are involved in the teachings as well as multiple married couples from the area. Josh and I have already had two classes, and I have loved them! Over the next few weeks we will learn/discuss things like:

  • Communication
  • Finances
  • Natural Family Planning (We already had this one and I think more than half of the guys in the group couldn't wait for it to end. I found it really interesting though, but yet again the Human body amazes me daily.)
  • Parenting
  • Vows
  • Faith

That is just to name a few. I think the thing I have enjoyed most about the class are the couples that come in and tell us about their own marriages. They are honest and do not sugar coat things. They talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly. However, the underlying factor is that despite those bad and ugly times (which happen), when you work at the good parts of marriage, it is wonderful and a gift! We are only half way through Pre-Cana, but I am sad for it to end. Already it has helped initiate conversations between Josh and I that we hadn't even thought of, and I look forward to a lifetime of open communication with my husband to be. I won't go into every single detail about the classes and what we have learned, but if you have an opportunity to take a pre-marriage counseling course through your church, an outside group or a civic organization I highly suggest it. In the short amount of time we have been attending (approximately 7 hours worth), I can already see how it has helped Josh and my relationship, and I look forward to implementing everything we have learned from here on out.

Did you and your significant other participate in pre-marriage counseling?

Did you enjoy it?

What was the best advice you received?
So far my favorite line came from a couple that had been married for 36 years. They said "Years from now no one is going to remember how the napkins were folded at your wedding or what appetizers you served. What they will remember is the marriage you have and continue to have. That lasts forever! They will remember if you had an oyster bar though!" Haha! I love it and it something to remember when silly wedding details stress you out. At the end of the day what really matters is that you are marrying the person you love.

Wedding Wednesday


  1. Stopping over from the WW linkup!

    The best advice we received was something along those lines too. And also to make sure you take a minute for the two of you at some point in the night. We drove around in the limo for a little while after the ceremony and it was so great to have a couple minutes away from all the excitement and just take a breather for a minute together.

    1. Thank you so much for stopping in, and I love that advice about a moment together. Definitely will make sure that we do that. I want to cherish every moment. Thank you Janelle!

  2. This is so true! The marriage is the most important thing. The wedding is just 1 day of a lifetime together. Thanks for reminding me of the important things in life!

    Thanks for linking up!

    1. Thank you for hosting! I love Wednesdays for the Wedding Posts!

  3. i'm so glad y'all are enjoying pre-cana. mike and i agreed it was our greatest joy leading up to the wedding day--not the details we fussed over here and there. the classes, discussions with the priests and the other couples deepened our relationship and got us talking about how marriage fits into our faith, and vice versa.

  4. I'm so happy that you love pre-Cana! I absolutely loved our experience. I was amazed by how honest the married couples were and I really loved their stories. It was such a special time in our engagement and I will continue to think of it fondly!!

    1. I am almost wish it wouldn't end. I am the nerd in there taking notes haha!