Tuesday, October 19, 2010

GMA Advice Guru

On September 21, 2010 "Good Morning America" began a search for the GMA Advice Guru. This would be a full-time position. Of course, I had to apply. The deadline for submission was on Friday. Below are a few of my answers to the questions they provided:

What would you tell his person: "Whenever there is an issue between my mother-in-law and me, my husband refuses to stand up for me. How do I get him to value our relationship more than the one with his mother? (150 words or less)
Brush your teeth! Clean your room! Stop hitting your sister! Think about how your husband feels. His mother’s word has been law since the day he came out of her womb. Put your personal feelings towards her aside. This is not about moving up on the totem pole. The goal of this conversation is to establish your relationship as a partnership. Approach your husband when you are calm and levelheaded, or else you will come across as aggressive. Emphasize to your partner that you know his mother is an essential part of his life. However, you two are a team, and you need to be a united front. Explain that there will be times when both of you will disagree with one another’s family members, but that is ok. It is normal and totally acceptable. Let him know that this is an adjustment you both are working on together.

What would you tell this person: "While cleaning my son's room, I accidentally saw on his Facebook page threatening remarks from his friends. I fear he's being bullied. What should I do?" (150 words or less)
Take care of it immediately. Ask him if everything is alright at school. He might be afraid or embarrassed to admit that a problem has arisen. Share a personal story with him where you yourself dealt with bullying. Let him know he is not alone. Emphasize that you will not take action without hearing his side and consulting with him first. Together you are going to come up with a strategy on how to handle the situation. Does he want to deal with it on his own? Surround him with love and support. Invite his friends over. Get him involved in activities that boost his confidence and moral. Get a daily update. If the bullying continues then reevaluate. Take it to the next level…go to the school or the bully’s parents, but no matter what make the decisions TOGETHER. Your child’s trust and feelings are what are most important

What would you tell this person: "My boss keeps taking credit for my ideas. What should I do?" (150 words or less):
Do not be submissive. Approach your boss at the right time. Explain that you love collaborating on new ideas, but that you do want to be acknowledged for the hard work you are doing. Never accuse your boss of stealing. Focus on the fact that you want recognition. Keep others in your office up to date on things you are developing. When emailing your superior about a project add others to the email as well as your boss’ boss. Save all notes, emails and information pertinent to your projects. Keeping good records will not only keep you organized, but it will also safe guard you in the instance of a future transgression. Finally, never steal someone else’s work yourself. Be fair and stay focused.

You can check out all of the rules and questions at the link below: